As my daughter grows older I realize that there is still a lot to teach her, not just ABCs, numbers, colors and the like...but important things about life to be the best person she can be. This is part of the reason why I started this blog. I see many children that are struggling in many ways and most times it is because the parents aren't spending the quality time necessary to raise their children to be the best that they can be. One of the most important traits to me, for my child, is to learn accountability. I have friends and have met people who blame their parents, co-workers, strangers, friends (just about anyone they can but themselves) for everything that goes wrong in their lives. At some point, we need to sit back and accept what we have done or deal with what has been given to us and step up to the plate and take accountability and responsibility for the actions we have taken to the reactions of our lives. I was dropping my daughter off at school and she was standing by the window, showing me the eggs that were put in glasses with water (they are learning about teeth and the importance of brushing/flossing and comparing the enamel of teeth to shells on the eggs). She was very excited and accidentally knocked over the glass of water and it spilled. She looked at me as what she should do, she picked up the glass and egg and I pointed to her to tell her teacher. I could see her hesitation and that she didn't want to do it. There was a classmate next to her and she was urging him to go with her. He didn't have anything to do with the spill but he went with her anyway. She could hear me through the window and I told her she had to tell her teacher that she did it and it would be ok. She did tell the teacher and the mess was cleaned up. After I picked her up from school, I asked her why she had her classmate go with her. She told me she was scared to tell her teacher. I told her I understood that fact and that accidents happen and that we need to be accountable for what we do by mistake, accidentally or on purpose and it is ok to tell someone or admit the problem. She understood and told me that her teacher was also ok with what had happened. I feel that this is a very important lesson for her to learn as she grows up. She is at an age where when something happens she is looking for someone else to take the blame. At one point, in the past month, she even blamed one of our dogs for a mistake she made. It was a bit humorous to me (of course I didn't let her see that), and we discussed her mistake and why it is important for her to admit when she does something wrong and she is understanding and learning more each time. Wouldn't that be great if we could blame all of our problems, mistakes and accidents on our family pet? Of course we can't, so take the time to teach your kids about accountability and teaching them to do what is right.
What we learned: that it is ok to make mistakes, have accidents and that sometimes something can go wrong, accountability and responsibility for our actions. What we shared: positive discussion and directions on mistakes and in the end life will be ok, a closer bond, an important life lesson and communication.
Remember, our kids learn from our example. If you make a mistake today, tomorrow or the next, it's ok, we are all human. Share it with your kid so they can see you make mistakes too! Dyan