A couple of weeks ago a dear friend of mines mother died. It was very sad to me as she died unexpectantly and was a surprise to my friend. It also brought back many memories of when my mom died in 1996. Even though the time has gone by fast and it has been over 16 years, the sadness swept over me. My heart ached for my friend, the things that she would miss with her mother and myself. When you lose someone who is close to your heart, it is very sad, whether it's expected or not expected. I can remember when my grandmother died, who was in her 80s, my mother told me, that no matter how old you or your mother is, it is still the most heart wrenching experience you will feel. And I would have to agree. You don't even realize how the loss will effect you until days, weeks, months or even years go by. So many things unsaid, time not spent together, ideas shared or experiences shared. I told my daughter about the loss and she was sad too and she had many questions and said some off the cuff things as well. One thing was "Mom, will you die when I am 11." Since she only just turned 5, I was very surprised by the comment, the age she said and the thought she put into that question. It made me reflect on so many things, my relationship with my mother, my relationship with my daughter, other loved ones and the obvious, that life is way too short to not do the things that you say your going to do, live the life that you want to live, spend the quality time necessary to be the best mom, friend, sister and wife you can be. After the initial shock of the phone call from my friend and the tears stopped, my daughter and I took a walk. As the sun was setting, I thought it was the perfect inspiration picture of the setting sun for my friend. I didn't bring my phone with to take the picture. So, I was in a dilemma, do we sit and enjoy the beauty for her or do we run as fast as we can back home to grab my phone and run back with hopes that the beauty of the setting sun would still be enough to share...we ran, as fast as we could back home, grabbed the phone and ran back just as fast! We were able to catch the picture just as the sun was setting and I emailed it to my friend. She didn't respond to the picture, nor did I expect her to. I just hoped she felt the beauty and the peace it brought me as I remembered her mother and all the mothers that have passed away. Death is the one thing in life we will face no matter what, it is inevitable. Spending the time to make the difference in someones life is not, it is a daily choice and one I try to do everyday of my life. If you have lost someone dear to you, my heart goes out to you. May you have peace, love and good memories to hold close and cherish.
What we learned: taking the time out to stop and enjoy the world around you can make a difference in your life and someone else's.
What we shared: the beauty around us, love and hopefully inspiration.
Make today the best you can for yourself, your kids, your family and friends, because after all that is all we can do. All my best to you, Dyan