Trust in your child. I feel that this is a must for my relationship with my daughter. When we were picking up the balloons last week for Valentines Day my daughter asked to hold the whole bunch of 18 balloons. I told her she could, but she had to hold on super duper tight because if she didn't, they would all fly away. (I have learned to always tell the why after anything, my daughter responds better to explanations). I noticed another mother and her daughter observing us and our conversation. The daughter was about 11 years old. The mother said, "Wow! You have a lot of trust in your daughter." I replied, "Yes, I guess I do" (even though I had not given it much thought up to this point in the last 5 years). The mother told me that she didn't think that she would let her daughter hold them with fear of her letting go. I asked the daughter if she would let them go, she replied that she would. I asked at this age, or when you were 5, she laughed and told me both. I asked her why and she told me she would like to see them float away, because she thought they would look beautiful in the sky. I agreed that they would and we laughed. After I walked away, I thought about trust and my daughter and how important it will be the older she gets. Knowing this will be about more important things then holding the balloons. Even if she did let go of the balloons, it would of been ok. She didn't... but we would of survived the crisis.
What we learned: giving her the chance to hold the balloons was a more important choice - it made her feel good and that she was helping out, responsibility and trust.
What we shared: a lesson in trust with another mother daughter, teamwork, listening skills (I heard her when she told me she wanted to hold them, not only the physical part of her wanting to do it, but what it would mean to her) and a bonding moment with another mother and daughter.
Trust your child today. It will bring many rewards to both of you and your relationship will grow because of it. All my best to you, Dyan