I have two important couples in my life that are celebrating their long loving marriages. One is my dear friend of 30 plus years as she and her husband will celebrate 22 years of marriage this year. The unique thing I think about them is that they are only in their 40s. The other is my beloved in-laws, they will celebrate their lasting love for each other of 50 years!! The secret to both marriages I think...is taking the time to make the time for mommy daddy time. I guess at this point in their lives, neither are addressed by mommy or daddy anymore, but that is not the important point here. The important point is that both marriages have stayed together for many many years. When I ask them both and reflect on their love it is because they made each other a priority. Another thing they both have in common is that they traveled together. You might not be a traveler or have the money to do it, but if the opportunity arises or you are lucky enough to be able to travel, do it!
We all hear it, your children are born, make the time for each other, we all shake our heads and say we will, we will have date night, we will travel together, we will put the kids to bed early and just spend quality time together... just the two of us...but, how many of us actually do it?? I know I say it, I think it, I truly think I am going to do it. We plan the nights, get a sitter lined up, but we don't do it and when we do...it is not often enough! We in the end are only hurting ourselves, our chance of a long lasting marriage and the increased happiness of our family.
Whether your newly married with kids or been together with older kids. Take the time to make mommy daddy time. Only you can do it, make the effort, make the commitment and allow your selves the time you deserve together.
If you don't have the money for a sitter, let alone travel, put your kids to bed early and have a special date night at home. Have a separate dinner together, cuddle and watch a love story on tv, sit outside and enjoy the stars. There are still many options to spend time together with or without money. Find what works for you and take the time to make mommy daddy time. All of my best to you, Dyan
What I learned: That I don't take enough time to make mommy daddy time. I have made a commitment to myself, my marriage and my family to do this and will in turn have a longer happier marriage.
What I share: New experiences with my husband, learning new things about him and building a foundation of love to last a lifetime.
I would love to hear from you. Tell me how you work to make your marriage last. Or what new things you have incorporated into your daily lives together to take the time for mommy daddy time.