Ok. So, we are now in our second month of school…starting to get in a groove and settled in with the new school, routine, meeting new friends and basically getting acclimated to first grade and our new school. Everything is going smooth, exactly how I like it, (I can be a bit of a control freak).
Unfortunately, this week my daughter had a major melt down. I was surprised as she had been telling me every day that she loves school, her new friends, her teachers, etc.
It started with a bad dream. She woke me up about 1 hour before I had to get up to get her ready for school. She crawled in bed with my husband and I and we talked briefly about it and back to sleep she went. All was fine, at least I thought it was. She then woke up on her own to start getting ready for school and she was sad and started crying and telling me more about her dream. She didn’t go into too much detail, but I realized that the dream had to do with me picking her up after school and I wasn’t there…she was left all alone waiting for me. She was sad and scared all at the same time. We discussed dreams and how it was just a dream and I would be there to pick her up as I had been every day since school had started. She seemed to be a bit better and time was clicking to get to school so, off to school we went. Her tears had dried up and she seemed fine, until we walked into school and the tears came, boy did the come. I hadn’t seen her cry this hard ever at school. I reassured her as best as possible. I talked briefly with the teacher about the situation. Her teacher consoled her and she tried to be brave and wiped off the remaining tears and walked into her classroom. I felt sad and quite frankly wanted to just take her out of school for the day. But we all know that is something we cannot do, otherwise it could become a habit that might be hard to break.
I started to walk back to my car and ran into a friend of mine who also has a daughter at the school. I told her what happened. We walked back to our cars and said goodbye. An hour later my friend called me and suggested I come in to volunteer for lunch duty, (even though it wasn’t my day to volunteer). She went on to tell me that it would be a wonderful way for my daughter to know that I am there to support her, be there for her and what a wonderful surprise it would be for her. I had a million things to do that day and did not really have the time to volunteer, but thought about what she was telling me and realized that it really did make sense, a lot of sense and she was absolutely right! I made the calls and verified it was ok for me to come in and help out at lunch.
I arrived on time and waited for her class to come to the lunch room. As her class filed into the lunch room, she turned and saw me. Her face lit up, it really lit up!! For that one moment in time, I could see all the sadness and uncertainty turn into happiness, peace and light. I was soooooo happy that I had shared my morning with my friend and was soooooo happy that I listened to her advice! This is one of the reasons why I started this blog, for moms and friends to share with each other ideas that work, REALLY work for their families and kids to make a stronger family bond, community bond and relationships that are filled with love, happiness and commitment.
Moms and friends getting together and sharing ideas about kids and life!
Even though a simple idea, I am not sure I would have thought of doing it on my own. I am truly grateful for my friend, because it made such a difference in my child’s day that I wouldn’t have traded anything else in the world to have seen her day brightened right before my very eyes.
Many wonderful benefits to this one. I also helped out the school in volunteering. Today, make a difference in your kids life. Be aware of their needs, be there to support them in every way you can and hug them/love them as much as possible. All of my best, Dyan
What I learned: That it is possible to turn your kids melt downs into a positive experiences, sharing your challenging times with friends can always give you a new perspective to help strengthen your relationships within your family and how much I value my friends and relationships because they help me be a better mom.
What my child learned: That she is not alone at school, I am there for her and care about her feelings, I will be there to support her and how much mommy does love her.