First step - picked up balloons
craft sticks, glue, paper
Heart shaped paper
Valentines Day cards
Valentines day card and gift bag
Valentine Girl puppet
Balloons and Valentines gift bags
Boy! What a success!! These turned out cuter than I could of ever imagined...they really were not that much work and the #Valentine card gift bag was not that much money to put together. I found a deal on the balloons at a dollar a piece and the craft cards were only about a dollar each with a couple of pieces of candy what a hit and definitely the #CutestValentinesEver What we learned:
following directions, practicing handwriting, trial and error-what worked best where, creativity, uniqueness-just like everyone looks different so did our hand puppets, teamwork, using glue, counting, sorting and filling with our bags and treats. What we shared:
using our imaginations, our ideas, creating happiness and joy, a fun-filled couple of hours.
What we used:
heart shaped paper (foam, stickies or construction paper will do) pink, red or white
pom pom balls
decorative valentines day bags
couple pieces of candy to fill
heart shaped balloons
Enjoy making your #Valentines, whether homemade or conventional, just take the time to do it! It will bring excitement and joy to your child and create memories for you both, that you will cherish forever.
May love, happiness and joy fill your day this #Valentines. #HappyHearts to you! Dyan
Unfortunately, my husband was in the hospital last week. he is doing better though, not quite where he needs to be, but better.
This is a cute story about a brother and sister and their search for bravery on #Halloween. While I was browsing the gift shop at the hospital, this book caught my eye because it comes with a soft bag of halloween dust.
If you happened to see my family video on my video page, I mention that we like Happy Halloweens, not the scary Halloweens depicted in some books and movies. We like friendly ghosts and characters with smiles. Pumpkins brimming with happiness and the magic of all things good! This book was an instant must have for me!
My daughter is fighting to be more brave, not only at #Halloween, but every night she falls asleep. As many children around her age are the same way.
When we got back from the hospital, we immediately read the book that night. And even though, it wasn't Halloween yet. We sprinkled Halloween dust around her room, in her bed and on her hand. She then sprinkled a bit more to be sure she had enough bravery to fall asleep. To my surprise, (4 days and running), she has gone immediately to sleep. No I'm scared, No can you turn on just one more light, nothing, straight to BED!
I love this book, because I feel that it has helped my daughter have a sense of security in herself and bravery.
#Halloween is a week away. If your child is fighting with the same problems, run out and buy this book. It may help you as it has helped us. The author also has more books that relate to other holidays. And if she hasn't written one yet, I am hoping that she writes one for kids, just like mine, who are scared to go to bed at night.
#HappyHalloween!! May your child or children find the happiness in the holiday and leave the scary stuff behind. I'm sure with a sprinkle of magic dust and your help they will! All of my best! Dyan
#Music and #kids go together so well!
Let music #inspire you to do something fun with your kid today!
SWING, SWING, SWING IS NOW AVAILABLE FOR PURCHASE
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I've always loved #music for the joy it brings into my life. #Music can bring you back to special times in your life, it book marks special events in your life, it can #inspire, it can make you happy, it can make you sad, it can make you think, move, sing, motivate, bring people together...the list goes on and on! #beinspired
What I like most about #music is the joy it brings my daughter and I when we are playing, dancing, singing, doing chores or learning new things. There's nothing better then listening to music to make everything just right!
My daughter has #inspired me to incorporate more music into our lives. I love it and more importantly, she loves it too! It has helped me teach her important things about her life and environment.
I realized when she was just a baby how #music made everything better, taking baths, playing and learning. She responded so well to simple everyday tasks when I would put them to song. As she grew, she started helping sing the many songs that we still sing today. I love #music and have instilled in her this same love of #music. I am thrilled that she loves #music! She is learning how to play the piano and sings just about everywhere she goes. #Music to us is fun, #inspiring, positive, motivational, reflective, nurturing and makes everything better.
I have released my first single and it it now available on iTunes, cdbaby.com and amazon music.
You can check it out on my face book page too:
under music player.
Swing Swing Swing (the opening #music on moms kids and friends)is a song about playing at the play ground with friends while enjoying all the beauty around you. Take a listen, I think you will love it! I do have to warn you though, it's very fun, catchy and will definitely want to make you get up and dance or swing at the park and you will probably be singing it for the rest of the day.
Download it, listen, dance and sing with your #kid....#beinspired and get ready to get your happy on....you'll be glad you did. All of my best to you, Dyan
#Music and #kids...go together so well!
SWING, SWING, SWING IS NOW AVAILABLE FOR PURCHASE
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#Happynewyear! Be #optimistic and teach your kids to be #optimistic Making changes in 2016 - do it!
Welcome 2016! Every year I say it, every year I mean it, every year I try! "THIS IS MY YEAR!!!" That's what I say, that's what I mean and that is what I try to do...make it my best year yet. I am an overly #optimistic person. I always see the sun through the clouds, the rain and the muck of life. For example, we are at Disneyland last week, and even though the forecasters said rain, rain and more rain. I truly believed the sun would come out (and it did-just for a moment, one small moment). My mother-in-law said to me, "Wow, you really are an #optimist!" (As it poured all day long!!) But guess what? We had an Awesome day! We didn't have to wait too long for rides, my daughter met most of the characters that she wanted to meet and the crowd was so small that we nearly got to do everything that we wanted in one day. So, even though the sun didn't shine but for a brief moment in time and we were completely soaked 2x, my #optimism paid off!! What a whirlwind of fun! Yes, Walt, our dreams did come true!
As I look at the year ahead and reflect on 2015... Yes! 2016 will be my year! 2015, could have been better, much better. I turned a 1/2 century, (don't feel like it-thank god 50 is the new 40...lol...does anyone believe that?), my husband was ill, there were several life altering experiences, challenges - almost all bad, growing pains of being a mom and realizing my daughter is growing way too fast, marital issues, the list goes on. There were days, many days, I prayed for peace, strength, hope, love and laughter. Some days were better than others. Some days down right stunk!!! Actually most days did! But at the end of it all. I kept my #optimism. That today is my day, this is my year! I'm a lot like #Annie, my childhood was close to the equivalent, probably even worse, but with one big difference, no daddy Warbucks. But that is ok! Because the sun will come out tomorrow! And today is my day! This is my year! 2016 is going to rock! Thank you dad for my forever #optimistic outlook on life!! As I regroup and let the past be the past, the present remain the present and not worry about the future, I am changing my blog to what I know will be a better site. See forever #optimistic! In the meantime, if there is something you need or want to change - do it! Take the time to make the time to do it! And, if your going to teach your child one thing today, teach them #optimism. It could be the best thing they ever learn. It will show them perseverance, the ability to find the good in everything and every one, hope, happiness within and they will learn to stop and smell the roses of life. Here's to you in 2016! May it be your year! #Happynewyear
PS - May it also be my year to write all of my blog ideas...the folder is overflowing...
Hello Moms, kids and friends!
Happy New Year to you!!
As I regroup and get acclimated to 2016, please enjoy this repost on Making New Years Resolutions with your kids.
May 2016 bring you all you want...
May your days be filled with blessings...
May you make #newyearsresolutions that you can keep for yourself and your kids.
All of my best to you in this new year! Dyan
Like many of you, I have made numerous New Years Resolutions over the years that I have never stuck to. Last Year was the first year that I actually made one resolution and stuck to it! Now, looking back it was an easy one and one that I should of been doing anyway...flossing my teeth every night. That being said, I still felt a major sense of accomplishment by years end. I was happy that I made a commitment to myself and my health and my dentist was thrilled! This year?? Another year of flossing every night for me (which is habit by now) and for my New Years resolution for 2013? Flossing, every night, for my 5 year old daughter. After all, it is our job as moms to teach our children good habits in life. As you think of a New Years resolution make it something worth accomplishing and easy for you to accomplish so at years end you can and will succeed!
What I learned from this: I can do something for myself and take the time to take that extra step to feel better and healthier. I can add new habits to my already hectic schedule. I can change something small in my life and make a huge difference for my health.
What my daughter will learn: healthy teeth habits, taking care of herself feels great and flossing can be fun! I already have a song written about using mouth wash to prevent cavities, next up.... a flossing song. Good luck! Dyan
with your kid - Baking a good learning tool
We all need a little #patience, right? I think there was a song about that…. If you
are lucky enough to be a #patient person, I wish I was more like you! One way that I practice #patience is when I am #baking with my daughter. I love to #bake! And this time of year is the best time to #bake. It is like a switch goes off and
my oven is in use all the time.
Something to do with the fresh cool air and the holidays right around
the corner and my need to reconnect with myself and my family through good old
My daughter and I have
enjoyed this shared experience since she could stand up next to me in the
kitchen (she even was my audience while still in her high chair). Every time we #bake, I come to the same conclusion…
I love creating things with her in the kitchen, I am a bit of a control freak (a this is how we do it kind of person - so is my daughter) and I have to be #PATIENT!
This past week we did all things #pumpkin. #Pumpkin pancakes – yum! #Pumpkin cheesecake, #pumpkin chia seed pudding – yum yum!! (See Holiday
page for recipe).
One way to practice #patience with your kid is to #bake. I find that when I #bake with my daughter I
have to practice patience, real patience.
She is eager to learn and create.
She loves to measure, mix and pour. She has always loved to create
things in a bowl making some concoction or another. I am a good baker, I always have been. But I know that it takes patience, correct
measurements, time and having the mix of the right ingredients.
Since she was
little I had to always take a deep breath to let her do the work, pouring,
sifting, folding, stirring, measuring whatever the next step was, I had to take
a step back and let her do it. This simple small step has given me the ability to teach her and grow with her in the kitchen. Even if
it means, cracked eggshells in your dish, liquids spilled on the counter, flour
everywhere, licked fingers in the bowl for the second, third or fourth
I tell myself she is learning, growing and one day will be a good baker and it is OK to make the mess as long as you clean
it up, right?
Over the past several years I am finding that I am finally
becoming more #patient. I am standing
back and letting her have some control.
After all, there are so many valuable lessons, learning opportunities and
quality time spent with #baking (I always want this to be something fun we do together), not to mention the delicious creations you can
#Patience with #baking is not only practice for you, but for your kid. My daughter is always in the hurry up and pour, create and taste mood. She also likes to have complete control. While #baking I take the time to tell her the importance of correct measuring, mixing and the many safety rules of a kitchen. She has to practice #patience too, which is why this is such a valuable educational task for both of you.
Still don’t think you can be #patient?
If you cannot stand to relinquish the control…you can do
what one of my friends does. She gives
some ingredients to her daughter including her own bowls and measuring cups and
lets her make her own in her own bowl. A
good way to mix fun and learning without having to be so #patient.
All of us could use a bit more #patience. In this time and age we live in, it seems
everywhere I turn people are getting more and more impatient. Standing in line at a store, traffic light,
school pick-up, with your kids, your spouse….the list goes on and on. I am just as guilty as the next and have
really been trying to focus on being #patient in every aspect of my life, with everyone
that I interact with on a daily basis.
Deep breathing, thinking before I act and now #baking. Grab your favorite cookbook, google your
favorite recipe, get your kid in the kitchen and spend some quality time #baking. All of my best, Dyan
What I learned: Be
more flexible, lighten up and that messes and mistakes are okay.
What we learned: #Baking
improves many skills and is a wonderful learning tool. Depending on your childs
age many things can be learned and/or introduced to them. How to organize ingredients, counting, measuring
properly wet and dry ingredients, pouring, cracking eggs, stirring, reading the
recipe and labels on ingredients, teamwork, textures of the ingredients,
patience, creativity, an everyday task has a plethora of educational value, introducing
the concept of fractions, clean-up, kitchen safety the list goes on….what a
great way to be with each other, create something delicious and special for
yourselves and family.
What we shared: A
morning of fun, good old-fashioned quality time, laughs, good food, creating
memories and practicing #patience together!!
#November – a time to #bethankful. As Halloween and October have come to a close, I look forward
to the month of #November. For me, it is
a time to #bethankful! Don’t get me
wrong, I am #thankful for each and every day, this time of year though, I think,
I am more aware or at least I try to be. I have asked my daughter each day this month
what she is #thankful for today. So far,
she has told me - family, her dogs (all 4 of them) and life! I loved her third one – life!
I am #thankful for my health, so I can live each day to its
fullest, for my family…my daughter whom I love dearly and who inspires me every
day, for my husband, whom I love, cherish and am #grateful for his flexibility
with me and the perfect fall day yesterday!
My daughter and I spent the afternoon at the park. It was cool with a gentle wind, but sunny to
keep us warm. We played kickball,
basketball (she made her first 3 basketball free throws ever...granny shots on a regulation net-pretty
exciting for her) rode bikes and scooters, rolled down hills, did life size
shadow puppets and blew bubbles and chased after them. What an awesome day we had, we had not spent a
day like that in a long time and it was wonderful just to relax, hang out and
play. Not to mention playing is great
for you whether you’re 6 or any age!
As we proceed into the month of #November, I will relish each
moment of time. Whether it is interacting with my daughter, husband, family,
friends or following my dreams. Take
some time today to reflect on your life and everything you are #thankful for in
your life. #bethankful
Talk with your kids to see
what they are #thankful for, teach them the importance of #gratitude. Remember to make the time and take the time
to spend with your kids, loved ones or yourself this #November. Create new memories, new traditions, follow
old traditions and savor each and every one. I have some wonderful ideas for crafts, recipes
and to #bethankful, starting with what to do with those pumpkins that didn't get decorated or carved this year...so check back often.
All of my best Dyan
Please enjoy this repost from last year...it is a wonderful reminder to make the time and take the time to spend quality time with my daughter...and I wrote it! Second grade is here and I miss her even more than when she was in first grade. Time is clicking, clicking away, she is getting older and more independent. Enjoy the moment, because that is all we have. PS...I still sing the nursery rhymes, can't help myself, or some of my own songs about school, enjoying the moment, one breath at a time. All of my best, Dyan
One of the hardest things about going #backtoschool for me is not getting
to spend the quality time with my child as I used to when she was in preschool
This year she started first grade, her days are longer and
she has more homework. We still have managed
to incorporate a couple of after school activities. I find myself wondering where has time gone
and how can she be almost 7??
Unfortunately, as we all know there is nothing we can do with time, it
goes by whether we want it to or not.
But one thing we can do is make the most of the time we have and try to
make the most of every moment that we have been given.
In kindergarten, I found that we did a lot of racing around
in the morning getting ready and off to school on time. This year, I have decided that we both need
more time to connect in the morning. My
daughter needs more time to eat a healthy breakfast, more time to get her brain
ready for the day, more time to talk to me and more time to hear how special
she is. I need more time too…more time
to tell her how special she is, more time to hear how and what she is learning
in school, more time to hear if she has any difficulties, more time to tell her
how much I love her, more time to tell her how proud I am of her and more time
to talk and bond. That being said, I am trying
to make the most of our mornings together.
I have given her an extra 20 minutes for her morning to just relax, eat
breakfast and to talk about whatever she needs to talk about. During this time I try and listen to her, what is bothering
her, what excites her, read a book, whatever she may need. I know that 20 minutes isn’t a lot, but it is
enough time to bond and strengthen our relationship, our trust and to be there
for my kid.
Every morning I take the time to wake her up in a loving way
with singing a favorite lullaby or song, scratching her back or talking to her
if something exciting is happening for the day.
I let her climb on my back and give her a piggy back ride to the kitchen
while pretending I am a train leaving the train station..all aboards and chug a
choos. These days of innocence will be
gone in a blink. I believe the seeds I
sow now for a nurturing and caring morning will bring me benefits of closeness
and trust in the future.
Today I woke her up to let her know the strawberry in our
garden had finally turned red and was ready to eat, she was so excited to see
it she got right out of bed! Not every
morning is so easy, but I try to be patient, be kind and creative with hopes
that she has the best morning as well, to keep that #positive attitude I have
instilled on her since she was born.
Tomorrow morning make the time to take the time or take the
time and make the time to have quality morning time with your kids. Be patient.
Don’t scream to get ready on time.
Listen. Talk about what is on their minds. Make a special breakfast. Give lots of kisses and hugs. Tell your kids how proud you are of them!! Most of all be in the moment that short
special moment that is given to you each and every morning. Tomorrow morning make
the most of your morning with your school aged kids.
All of my best, Dyan
For the love of dogs rescue one today!!
This is a repost from last year, and I wanted to share again in honor of #nationalpuppyday. If you are considering purchasing a puppy, please check with your local rescue organizations first. There are many puppies that need to be adopted in all shapes, sizes and breeds. Typically they will go quick, but they are available for adoption. If you miss your opportunity for the young puppy, who knows, you might just fall in love with the older one in the next cage...senior dogs need love too!
I wanted to share a link with anyone and everyone
who might be searching for that perfect pet.
Yes, it is great to go to the local pet store and see all those cute
puppies barking, wagging their tails at you and asking for you to take them
home. But over the years, I have found a
better way to make a pet part of your family, a way that helps your community, rescuing
dogs. There are so many dogs that need
to be rescued every day, every breed and those cute little mixes too!
Before I met my husband he rescued many dogs,
his preference in breed was the Great Dane.
After we met, I rescued my first two Shih Tzu’s. I wanted a pet to keep my older Shih Tzu company. After much deliberation and discussion I did
it! The first time I rescued, I talked
to my groomer who was pretty much an all Shih Tzu groomer and asked her if any
of her clients needed a home for their Shih Tzu, low and behold they did. A women that was heavily involved in the
rescues of Shih Tzus, became very ill and could not take care of them any
longer. They were frantically looking
for homes for the dogs, otherwise, they would be forced to put them down.
I was so happy that we asked her and just in the nick of
time! I was only going to rescue one,
but after seeing the other one waiting for a home, I just couldn’t resist and
rescued two. The dogs were so happy to
have a home, one of them wagged her tail the whole way home and quite frankly I
think wagged her tail for the next 8 years nonstop! Truly, the happiest dog I have ever met!
Our family loved them both instantly and we
made our family of dogs work. Great Danes
and Shih Tzus turned out to be the perfect mix for our family. The new additions kept my little Shih Tzu boy
happy and company. I believe it was one
reason why he lived to almost 17 years old.
They helped each other in ways that I never knew existed in the dog
So, after 17 years of my first
real pet, we rescued again. I called my
groomer and low and behold there was a client that needed a home for his Shih
Tzu. A male, a perfect fit for my female
at home. So cute and he even resembled
my 17 year old. We love him so much and
he, I believe, helped our other dog live longer and helped her get around the
house as her vision started to fail her because of old age.
This year after the loss of our beloved Shih Tzu, we rescued
again. This time my groomer didn’t have
any Shih Tzus that needed a home. So, I went
on-line and researched and researched and researched. My husband decided to help me and he found
this website that we really felt comfortable with and knew that the rescuers
were true angels with a true love of dogs and their well-being.
After talking back and forth and deliberating
on the cutest Shih Tzu we again could not resist and adopted two. One was blind and I knew if I didn’t adopt
her no one would. (I have the temperament
and patience to have a blind dog. Just a
note it might not be for everyone). But
with two elderly blind Shih Tzu’s previously it was an easy fit for me. We instantly feel in love with both of them!
This time we adopted a 3 year old as
my daughters pet and the blind one we call PK is about 6, both keep our now
aging 12 year old young and happy with hopes that he will live to at least 17.
If you are considering a pet, please look at
this rescue, which has affiliations that rescue and place all breeds and
mixes. There are donation fees if you are inclined to do so, but at
the astronomical price of dogs these days and the need for many dogs in rescues
to find a home, I am not sure why anyone would start their search anywhere else. Good luck in your search for the perfect
rescue dog, they will bring you happiness and you will literally make their day! Bow wow for now! Dyan
What we learned: Take
your time in researching for the right breed or mix for your home. Do your research on the rescuers. If you have other dogs at home make sure you
find a good fit for them, you don’t want any bad feelings coming from your other
pet (s). We knew from the temperaments’
of our dogs that our males would not like other males so we adopted females, a
good companion choice for them. You will
have to fill out applications and donation fees are appreciated, but the cost really goes to help the
rescue with their costs. Rescuing dogs
is so important with our over population of pets today that rescues really need
our help. Dogs are a wonderful way for
families to bond, with walking, playing and teaching your child responsibilities. They bring so much happiness to our home we
hope they do the same for you!
Today was a cold January day, I woke up with a horrible migraine, the first bad one in about a year. If my daughter didn't have a doctors appointment, I am not sure I would of made it out of bed today. (That would of been a first in over 5 years). As you all know, if you have kids, the world doesn't stop for you to get better and rest (thank you migraine medicine)!!
After running to the doctor and going to pick up a script at the pharmacy, I thought, I can't wait to get home and warm up and not go outside the rest of the day.
When I got home, I forgot something in the car and I ran out to get it. The sun felt so warm on my face and body, even though it was a chilly day. I went back in the house and I told my daughter, "We just have to go out for a walk, bundle up and lets go." She fought me for a moment and said something about her favorite TV show and I said "TV is not more important then fresh air and exercise." She seemed to agree and got dressed to go.
I said it would be a quick 20 minutes and we will be back. One hour later we came back from our walk, refreshed, our souls warmed from the bright sun! We enjoyed our walk and each other. I smiled and watched her and was happy to see her running around the park as I admired her young spirit and sense of adventure. We stopped and commented on the ducks and how they were probably cold. We stopped and listened to all the sounds around us, the birds talking, the distant airplane in the sky, the kids playing at the local school playground and dogs barking. We found a new rock to paint for our rock collection and we even met a nice lady with a five year old grand daughter in NY. We laughed, held hands and I took in the most precious time of my day.
Thank you sun for inspiring me to go out and enjoy the day, you created a nice memory for me and my daughter.
What I learned: when something inspires you - act on it, even a bad day can turn out good, make the most of everyday.
What we shared: quality time together, learning about nature, sounds and birds, fresh air is good for you even if it is cold out (as long as your dressed for it). Have an inspiring tomorrow! All of my best, Dyan
My family and I have finally recovered from a 10 day long, knock out, icky virus! As, I am slowly getting back in the swing of things...please enjoy this repost, one of my favorites, in case you missed it. The best things in life are free...if you actually take the time to enjoy them, #timewithyourkids that is... and I hope you do! All of my best, Dyan
What a crazy day...last minute 1099 stuff, phone calls to set-up service man for our move back into our home (after our daughter's illness), health insurance needed to be renewed and waiting for a phone call from the car dealer on when my car would be ready for pick-up. Finally, I could break away for a minute and promised my daughter sometime outside. "The park or just playing in the grassy area of the park?", I ask. "Playing in the grassy area," she shouts as we get ready to go outside. We grabbed a ball, frisbee and put on our gym shoes and headed to the park.
On our way to the park she states she wants to play TAG YOUR IT, one of her favorite games. We get to the park, throw the frisbee around for a bit, (she is still learning to catch it), so we basically just throw it and race to see who gets it first. The same with the ball and then TAG YOUR IT. As we run around the park, she screams happy screams, laughs and runs like crazy back to what she calls base - to have a break, her safe haven where no one can be tagged or be the tagger. It is always fun to pretend like your exhausted and can't go on and then sneak a tag in and run the other direction. As we run around like crazy playing tag, I realize, my daughters coordination has improved and that she is faster than ever. I am still pretty quick even for a 47 year old mom. I told my husband tonight at dinner that she is getting quicker or I am getting older, maybe it is both. I am happy to say though, that I enjoyed every minute of tagging and getting tagged and got a great workout in the meantime.
The best part of my day was TAG YOUR IT and hearing my daughters laughter and excitement. THE BEST THINGS IN LIFE ARE FREE...running around the park hearing her say those words "TAG YOUR IT" was priceless.
What we learned: Plain old fashioned running around is not only great exercise, but the most fun you can have for free with your child, that moms and kids can have quality time without phones or other electronic gadgets, getting out of the house even for just 35 minutes is a great way to refresh your minds, spirits and souls.
What she learned: Mom can still run fast and play, spending quality time with her is very important and that young is all a frame of mind.
TAG YOUR IT.....all my best, Dyan
Be grateful for #handsondads
What would we do without hands on dads? Today, I am grateful for those dads who take
an active part in their kid’s lives. Who
show up for their kids events or school activities…Who participate in their kids’
lives…Who love their kids unconditionally…Who spend time with their kids (even
if they don’t have the time to do so)…Who play with their kids (sports, games,
whatever it is, they play)…Who hang out with their kids…Who help out with their
kids around the house with homework or whatever…Who are present with their kids…
The traditional role of fatherhood is not what it used to be
and many dads are taking an active role in raising their kids. To each and every one of you, I am
grateful. I am grateful because it
builds confidence in our children, it builds character, it builds a bond
between father and son or father and daughter that only fathers can build….moms
can’t do everything! I am grateful
because hands on dads help raise stronger, loving children and I believe will
help their children have less “issues” in the future.
Unfortunately, I don’t meet a lot of hands on dads…but every
time I do, I am enthralled and encouraged with their active part in raising
their kids. If each dad does one thing
today that they normally don’t do for their kids, wife or partner, I think it
would strengthen the family bond…one dad step at a time. Doesn't matter what you do...just do it! Do it from the heart and with love. Make the time and take the time today to be a
#handsondad, you and your family will be glad you did! All of my best, Dyan
If you have something that your #handsondad does, please share with a comment or if you are a #handsondad, I would love to hear how you spend time with your kids spending quality time together. Thanks, Dyan
Ok. So, we are now in our second month of school…starting to
get in a groove and settled in with the new school, routine, meeting new
friends and basically getting acclimated to first grade and our new school. Everything is going smooth, exactly how I like
it, (I can be a bit of a control freak).
Unfortunately, this week my daughter had a major melt down.
I was surprised as she had been telling me every day that she loves school, her
new friends, her teachers, etc.
It started with a bad dream. She woke me up about 1 hour before I had to
get up to get her ready for school. She
crawled in bed with my husband and I and we talked briefly about it and back to
sleep she went. All was fine, at least I
thought it was. She then woke up on her
own to start getting ready for school and she was sad and started crying and
telling me more about her dream. She
didn’t go into too much detail, but I realized that the dream had to do with me
picking her up after school and I wasn’t there…she was left all alone waiting
for me. She was sad and scared all at
the same time. We discussed dreams and
how it was just a dream and I would be there to pick her up as I had been every
day since school had started. She
seemed to be a bit better and time was clicking to get to school so, off to
school we went. Her tears had dried up
and she seemed fine, until we walked into school and the tears came, boy did
the come. I hadn’t seen her cry this
hard ever at school. I reassured her as
best as possible. I talked briefly with the teacher about the situation. Her teacher consoled her and she tried to be
brave and wiped off the remaining tears and walked into her classroom. I felt sad and quite frankly wanted to just take her out of
school for the day. But we all know that
is something we cannot do, otherwise it could become a habit that might be hard
I started to walk back to my car and ran into a friend of
mine who also has a daughter at the school. I told her what happened. We walked back to our cars and said goodbye. An hour later my friend called me and
suggested I come in to volunteer for lunch duty, (even though it wasn’t my day
to volunteer). She went on to tell me
that it would be a wonderful way for my daughter to know that I am there to
support her, be there for her and what a wonderful surprise it would be for
her. I had a million things to do that
day and did not really have the time to volunteer, but thought about what she
was telling me and realized that it really did make sense, a lot of sense and
she was absolutely right! I made the calls and verified it was ok for me
to come in and help out at lunch.
I arrived on time and waited for her class to come to the
lunch room. As her class filed into the
lunch room, she turned and saw me. Her
face lit up, it really lit up!! For that
one moment in time, I could see all the sadness and uncertainty turn into
happiness, peace and light. I was
soooooo happy that I had shared my morning with my friend and was soooooo happy
that I listened to her advice! This is
one of the reasons why I started this blog, for moms and friends to share with
each other ideas that work, REALLY work for their families and kids to make a
stronger family bond, community bond and relationships that are filled with
love, happiness and commitment.
friends getting together and sharing ideas about kids and life!
Even though a simple idea, I am not sure I would have
thought of doing it on my own. I am truly
grateful for my friend, because it made such a difference in my child’s day
that I wouldn’t have traded anything else in the world to have seen her day
brightened right before my very eyes.
Many wonderful benefits to this one. I also helped out the school in
volunteering. Today, make a difference
in your kids life. Be aware of their
needs, be there to support them in every way you can and hug them/love them as
much as possible. All of my best, Dyan
What I learned: That
it is possible to turn your kids melt downs into a positive experiences, sharing
your challenging times with friends can
always give you a new perspective to help strengthen your relationships within
your family and how much I value my friends and relationships because they help
me be a better mom.
What my child learned:
That she is not alone at school, I am there for her and care about her
feelings, I will be there to support her and how much mommy does love her.
As the summer winds down and the first day of school draws near it is time to prepare our little ones for school. Whether their starting pre-school, kindergarten or first grade or any grade you need to prepare them for the first day of school. In the past what I have done for my daughter is make a paper chain for the “count down” of the first day of school. This year was a bit more hectic with no days home before her first day, it was ok though because she is in first grade and is understanding the concept of time minutes, hours, days and weeks more and more everyday (which is good and bad – a topic for another day).
I was so tired from our road trips and summer break that when my alarm went off this morning, I couldn’t figure out why, but then quickly remembered it was her first day of school. Here we go again! As I walked down my hallway to make my much needed cup of coffee, I started to get tears in my eyes…wasn’t expecting this, but none the less, I embraced the moment and realized that my little buddy was going off to school again for the next nine months. What am I going to do without her all day? Did I do everything I wanted to do with her this summer? Did we play enough, do enough crafts, Do enough summer learning to keep her brain fresh all summer? Was I present with her all summer? Is she prepared to go? Is she excited? Scared?.......I quickly pushed the negative thoughts out of my head and stopped myself from putting too much pressure on myself to be the “perfect mom” and realized I did all those things.
I made my coffee, let my way too many dogs out and got into the routine again, making lunch breakfast, etc. I woke my daughter to find her excited for school. She couldn’t wait to put her uniform on, have breakfast and we even had enough time for a picture of her new toothless smile, (she lost her second front tooth last night). We talked over breakfast, finished packing her lunch, got dressed and brushed her teeth.
As we approached school we talked about her first day, the excitement, meeting new friends, how cute she looked in her new uniform, new lunch box, back pack and were amazed at how many parents and kids were going to school (last year her school was very small, so a much different experience for her).
Our goal is to not be late for the entire year so we made it to class with plenty of time to get settled and acclimated. We greeted her teacher, found her cubby, unpacked her lunch, water bottle and back pack. Yes she was ready! As the minutes clicked towards 8 o’clock. It was time to leave. I quickly took some last minute pictures gave her a kiss and hug goodbye and wished her luck with a few other positive remarks. Yes, she was ready!!
I walked out the class and stood by her window, greeted a few parents and then the tears came, not from my daughter but from me. Not a lot, just a few to remind me how much I love my daughter, how wonderful this new experience would be for her, how she was ready and how much I would miss her everyday. I watched and observed some other parents and kids, some frantically getting their children in class, other kids relaxed and sitting at their desks ready to go and other children crying. I wondered why the tears?
The difference between tears and no tearson the first day of school could be that these parents are not preparing their child for the first day of school. It is important to get them excited for the new experience. Ask them questions about what they are excited about (for my daughter it was the new playground). Even if it is for the playground, that is something to be excited about, acknowledge their excitement and expound on their excitement.
As we ate dinner last night I suggested many things for her to be excited about, new teachers, making new friends, her new uniform, new books to read and new things to learn. We discussed everything we saw on the walls in her class, talked about the weather charts, birthday charts and the maps. We recited the pledge of allegiance to refresh her memory from kindergarten (she even got a kick out of it when I recited it with her and put my hand on my chest in a very dramatic way). We went over the school rules and what will be expected of her in behavior, attitude, morale, school work and all the exciting things she would do and learn this year.
As we shopped for food for her lunches this week, we discussed the importance of nutritional snacks and trying new foods. We went to one of our favorite stores Trader Joes. They have shopping carts for the kids and she put all her food in her cart. At first she didn’t even want to go with me. By making her a part of the decision process she loved it! She enjoyed putting her own food in her cart and remarked several time on how organized her cart was and that food I picked out might have too much sugar in it and would it be ok to bring to school. Her teacher has a low sugar policy on snacks which my daughter and I discussed earlier that day.
We read a book on the first day of school before she went to bed last night. I didn’t have any on starting first grade, so we read one from last year changing the words from kindergarten to first grade and even changed the characters pet name of the cat to my daughters dogs name. She thought this was hysterical and we had a great time reading together.
It’s the little things that can make a difference between tears or no tears on the first day of school. My husband always tells me my daughter is too dependent on me….I think not! She was prepared and ready for the day and embraced the day with open arms, an open mind and an open heart. For me, no more tears and back to mommy time and doing what I have been waiting to do since May. Good luck preparing your child for the first day of school! The little things that you do and taking the time to interact, ask questions and get them involved can and will make all the difference. All my best, Dyan
What I learned: Positive reinforcement brings positive experiences. Getting my daughter involved with decisions for school and giving her choices makes her more confident, mature and independent. Communication is the key to success and new experiences.
What she learned: Preparing for school can be fun, learning about better food choices can make shopping for good food and snacks more enjoyable, letting her make some better nutritional choices can bring new things to try and starting a new experience is exciting.
One of the things I love to do with and for my kid is to make “to do” lists. I am a list person all the way through and I found early on that I sometimes get so caught up in what I need or want to do that the things I wanted to do with and for my daughter got left behind. So, I started making “to do” lists with my daughter and it has been one of the best things I could have ever done for her! I have been doing this for many years now and the rewards have been wonderful. Now, that she is a bit older, I have her participate in making the lists. When she was younger, I would make the lists to make sure that we didn't miss anything that I thought was important to her learning, experiencing and growing. I plan a balance of things for her/us to do. Whether it is puzzles, making a craft, baking/creating something in the kitchen, music, dolls or catching balls, playing sports, chalk, drawing, etc., the list goes on and on. I want to ensure that are doing a varied list of activities to help her learn, grow and be successful in life and school. If you take the time to make a list of well-rounded activities, it will insure that you will do these things with your child. I have to say that as I watch my daughter grow she is good at many things and I believe it is because we have always had our "to do" list with varied activities on it.
If you practice this with your child that is wonderful, if not, it is time to start. Get out that piece of paper, pen and start creating your “TO DO” list today. Don't make it so long and unobtainable, make it simple. Puzzles, play catch and music (listen, dance and play instruments). That’s it, that easy and the rewards your kid will have are tremendous. Tomorrows’ list you ask....make a craft for the holidays, play hopscotch and play their favorite game. It's easy to do, change it up, make it well rounded and your child will be well rounded too! All of my best! Dyan
There is one thing that I never had to write down and that was to read with my child. I have been reading with her since the day she was born (well maybe not until we got home from the hospital) but pretty darn close to it. I didn't read when she was in the womb, but once born, I am proud to say that I really have only missed a hand full of days because of traveling, visitors or something else special planned. But I make the time everyday to read and the benefits to her are amazing, the first time she took the book out of my hands and said “I think I can read this to you mommy” and started reading to me I was overwhelmed with emotion and so proud of her! Reading to your child is so important it builds confidence, encouragement and it’s a great way to bond with your kid. Read every day the rewards are well worth it!!!